Wednesday, August 31, 2011

Court date!!!

So, today we got good and bad news, via email since our S.W. KNOWS we would be angry with his news and decided not to call with this critical information. Apparently, he spoke with the Lawyer (this is the one we were told only worked Fridays, thanks for lying there guys!) and the earliest court date they can get is the end of Sept!. Immediately after getting the email, Joel tried phoning and no answer! EERRR!! So, I am beyond thrilled we got a court date and very angry on when it is!

Tuesday, August 30, 2011

The end is near!

Joel called our S.W. this morning, surprisingly he has already filled out the Protection Application and had submitted it to the Lawyers on Friday. From here, the Lawyer looks over the application (usually within a day) and it gets sent to court and a court date is assigned within 5day, MAX!! Now, we wait for the call on when to board the plane!!!!

Monday, August 29, 2011

Best news EVER!!!!!

Joel finally got a hold of SW in Ontario's boss bright and early this morning ( it helps with the time change and them being 2 hours ahead and Mr Isaiah waking up nice and early!) Anyways, she spoke with the lawyers on Thursday, SW in Ontario is filling out or has filled out the Protection Application.. What this means is they are requesting a judge to step in and give us rights to Cheyanna if she were to need medical care, etc. This court date will be.... late this week or early next week!!!!! After that date they will assign another court date within days of the first date and Joel has to be present for it! In the meantime, once the first court date is complete, they will be flying Joel out to Ontairo!!!!!!!!! Yup, in the next few weeks we will be a family of 5!! We are sooo happy that this is coming to an end, this was a hard, hard fight, but sooo worth it!!

So, the plan as of now; Joel flies out with Pax and Isaiah and I stay here and work, work, work and get ready! Then, I fly out to Ontario for hopefully a few days to visit and then come back, just in time for a family photo shoot by a great photographer here in Calgary!! Happy day!!! We could NOT have done this without everyone's outpouring support, love, hope and lots and lots of prayers! Thank you and please keep all that amazing energy coming for the adjustment of a little girl into our wonderful ( and crazy) household!!

Saturday, August 27, 2011

News on a Saturday!

So, today started out like every Saturday, not expecting any news.. Then my mother in law calls and stated she had just talked to sister in law and had her number. Joel then called sister in law and she stated that her and baby C's dad were very supportive of baby C coming here and that they had been trying to get a hold of SW in Ontario to sign the papers, he hasn't called them back! I then emails foster family to let them know and thery said they were in a similar situation and since sister in law is agreeing foster family said that they saw no reason why baby C cannot be in our care by Aug 31st.. If only we were the ones to make the big decisions like that. Foster family and Joel and sister in law will all be calling SW in Ontario on Monday and getting down to the bottom of things.. Hopefully, with lots of prayers this will happen soon!!!

As for Friday, no one called us back.. We called a million times and not one call back.. I'm almost ready to post their numbers on the internet so everyone can call them and tell them to freaking call us back already!!!

Thursday, August 25, 2011

More run arounds..

Nothing new really to report other than constant run arounds today.. I emailed the foster family this morning telling them we recieved the police checks, they stated they had a meeting with their social worker yesterday and that my sister is now NOT in favour of baby C to come live with us. Joel then called our SW and they had a meeting last week and they are looking at custody ( instead of kinship) and they want to put her on an extended family visit prior to custody BUT would be in October sometime, but stated he had to talk to his supervisor. He also said they filed a Protection Application and are submitting it to the court, from there a judge will decided what to do, give baby C back to sister in law, have her with us permanently, or continue with kinship through the agency. SW also stated he has not recieved anything from our SW here in Alberta, which I think is B.S. because she is on top of everything, even calling us in Newfoundland, just to touch base, stating she sent the paperwork.. SW here in on vacation until next week sometime! Off the phone then with loser SW, as you can read, we hate him and everything about him, once we have baby C here, we will be investigating how to make a "formal complaint"
Anyways, Joel called the supervisor and they played phone tag all day, she left a message as Joel was on the phone with another social worker in the same office. The supervisor left a message saying she would be speaking with the lawyer and that she got the police checks and would touch base with us Friday because she was busy that day (hopefully regarding us!) In the meantime, we sit and pray so hard for her, sending her all the love that she deserves. I bought her cute little summer outfits that she won't be wearing anytime soon..

Blah, and readying through this I am going to have to figure out initials for people to make it a little easier to understand who is who. As you can see, this is not a simple process by any means, with all these people involved it is like the game telephone!

Wednesday, August 24, 2011

They came!!!!

We just walked in the door from a very stressful day of traveling across country with a very busy 22 month old, to come home and check the mail and have our well awaited Police Checks!!!!!! We are beyond thrilled and it makes what we thought was a trying day (in the vehicle for 5 1/2 hours and then 9 hours on a plane!) seem like nothing in comparision to our fight for baby c and waiting for these checks!! Our SW here in Calgary is on vacation for the next two days, but Joel will be making calls in the morning! So, YEAH!

Tuesday, August 9, 2011

S.W. visit #2

Well, today's visit was very uneventful! She was here and gone within half an hour! She asked us if we had completed our "homework" and we submitted everything to her and she was shocked we had it all done and ready to be handed in! We asked if we had locked up our medication (everything somewhat medical wise needs to be in a locked container.. I already have a hard enough time taking my vitamins in the first place, now that they are locked up, it's a lost battle!!) which they were.. She asked if we had any questions and that she was submitting everything for the homestudy and we should get a call soon to set that up!

Now, all we need is that critical piece of paper from the Police Station stating we are good people with clean records, which we are, so we don't understand the wait!

Monday, August 8, 2011

Monday is over and now Tuesday will soon begin

Monday came and went.. We picked up the lock for our cutlery drawer and some extra smoke detectors. Joel completed the evacuation plan and we both fill out our 10 page questionnaire and financial statement.. Everything is in the folder ready for our visit the CFS S.W. Hopefully, we will get more answers and her just being here makes the day amazing, knowing we are moving forward! Tomorrow morning we will be cleaning but not cleaning enough to make it obvious that we did it, they prefer your house be natural.. And well, natural looks like a tornado hit, we I'd prefer to at least pick up and dust a little bit!

I will update tomorrow after our S.W. appt!

Sunday, August 7, 2011

Mondays, ugh!

I can't even begin to explain this huge pit in my stomach when I realize it's almost Monday (I work nights, alot, and with Joel being home, I lose track of days! I know the date, just not the day!) Anyways, Mondays mean alot.. The beginning of a new week, wondering if we will get answers, a phone call, checking the mail a million times waiting on those stupid police checks, checking emails to see if the foster family contacted us and in between all this crazy stress, we have two very active and busy little bodies running around! It's alot of stress and anxiety! And I hate Fridays, because that is two whole entire days that we will not get answers, or calls, or check the mail.. We always try to do something fun with the kids on my days off and we do try to relax on the week end, but this process is not like that.. We have another little person so far away, so when we head out with the kids, the thought always crosses our minds that we are missing something, and that something is baby C..

It's amazing though, we have sooo much love, have shed sweat and tears, all into this precious little soul that we have never met.. And we realize in the end, once she's here, all this stress and frustration will be well worth it because this baby was meant to be a part of our family!

Friday, August 5, 2011

Frustration..

I am beyond frustrated with this entire process! Everywhere we go, we get the run around and it's not fair to us or baby C! Apparently, she is in respite care this week end and the foster parents forgot to mention this to us.. These are the people who, according to their emails, are worried about how baby C will handle the move since she is "very schedule orientated" So why then, are we sending her to a family that she doesn't know for the week end? Not cool!

So, our CFS S.W. called today to review what has been done, check on the references and to state she got one in the mail! S.W. also mentioned that they were going to proceed with the home study even before the police checks come in.. But, we are headed on vacation in one week..Very exciting, then she proceed to tell Joel that she called our S.W in Ontario and he stated that the move wasn't happening anytime soon as they are waiting for a court date... Umm, baby C can wait here! CFS S.W. stated he was going to call us the previous day to tell us this, we did not receive a call. Right about now, I am at work, in tears, screaming in my head, there is a little baby involved here, not a puppy! Even this wouldn't be fair to a puppy! I have been researching online everything I can about kinship and know this is pure B.S., I know more than these S.Wer's! Anyways, I found something about an extended family visit, why has this never been mentioned before?? CFS S.W. stated she knew about it and they do it inter provincially and was going to try to find out more about it.. So, my trusted husband got to work..

Joel called S.W. in Ontario and wouldn't you know, he's gone on vacation and won't be back for a week, thanks for informing us there trusted S.Wer! Joel didn't stop there, he called S.W. supervisor and spoke with her. APPARENTLY ( and yes, bold is required) she had no clue about this new found waiting until court. Joel then asked her about an extended family visit and she said yes, they do it, but not to sure if they do it inter provincially.. Again why has this NOT be mentioned before? She WAS going to look into it.. In the meantime, she stated once everything is done with us ( and she said including the home study, we were told we can do that once baby C is here, under special circumstances) that baby C will be here ASAP and they will fly her out as soon as they found out! No consistency at all!

So, today was a set back, I'm not to sure what to believe anymore! Our original plan was to bring her to Newfoundland on our family vacation (Aug 12th), then it was to pick her up on our way back.. So now, we are investigating how much we will go in debt ( changing tickets is expensive!!) trying to change our tickets and headed to Ontario after Newfoundland, even if for a visit.. Our vacation to Newfoundland will be far from a vacation as I know being so far away and with limited access to a computer will cause a great deal of stress!

And that folks, is pure frustration all in a blog post! Enjoy!

Thursday, August 4, 2011

So this is my first post, probably of many to come. I have always wanted to blog, but consider our lives pretty normal and who wants to read about normal? Now that we have something exciting going on, with lots of family and friends constantly asking what's going on, this seems like the best way to do it!

I will eventually be adding older dated posts from our entire process, which began about 16 months ago when it was confirmed my sister in law was pregnant and the children were in my mother in laws care ( apprehended and placed there)

So for now, sit tight and I will be adding more information and updates

Wednesday, August 3, 2011

Medical Reference

Today, we rounded up the kids and ventured to our great family doctor for our medical clearance! He signed us off as healthy and ready to be parents and didn't charge us an arm and a leg as we were expecting! We are hoping everything is said and done soon, we are headed on a family vacation to Newfoundland next week and would love to pick up baby C on our way home!

So now we're waiting on: Police checks ( Please pray hard that these come) all 3 of my references received their letter and two will be in the mail in the next few days, one is already in the mail, S.W. is coming over on Tuesday to ensure we completed all the proper paper work and to go through the house again.. We are also in the process of trying to figure out how to paint the room.. I really want it done before we go to Newfoundland on the 12th, but it might be too much to ask of my loving hubby!